Yesterday morning after I’d hugged and kissed my kids and sent them off to school James came up and said,
“I need clean my room.”
I smiled in shock. What kid actually wants to clean???
I gave him a little head pat and said, “Yes you do.” I didn’t really think he meant it – he is only three after all.
He grabbed my hand and tugged. “You help me?”
The list of things to do was very, very long. Besides he shared a room with Jacob and wouldn’t it be better to wait so he helped to? So I replied, “Why don’t we wait until Jacob is home.”
He tugged more insistently. “No, we need do it right now.”
I looked into his earnest little eyes. He was sincere. He meant it. For whatever reason he felt he just had to have a sparkling clean room.
So I agreed.
It wasn’t too bad and he helped the WHOLE time. He never complained, in fact for the first fifteen minutes he insisted we sing the clean-up song NONSTOP.
You know the one –
Clean up, Clean up, everybody every where,
Clean up, Clean up, everybody do your share.
Of course, at one point someone in my family changed the second line to:
Clean up, Cleanup, even in your underwear.
It’s been a real stretch to sing it right ever since….
Anyway, we finally finished and my little boy was very happy.
I didn’t think anything more of it until later that day.
His sisters were trying to clean their room because a friend was coming over. (we have a rule (well, a few actually): no friends in your bedroom if it’s messy – we are flexible to a degree but not if the room is a complete disaster) They were fighting A LOT.
James came up to me and said,
“My friends happy because my room clean.”
It took me a minute to realize what he meant. “James, did you clean your room because you wanted a friend to come over?”
“Yes. Mommy, I have a friend come now?”
“Who’s your friend?”
He thought long and hard. Finally I asked, “What about someone in your primary class? Do you have a friend in primary.”
“Yes. My teacher is my friend.”
So I went to the phone and called his teacher. It will be a while, but James has friends coming to see his clean room next week.
He is SO excited.
And I am so grateful I set my to do list aside.