Beating the Odds

Today, I find myself thinking about the odds.

When Paul and I were first married we were hopelessly in love and had all the hopes and dreams of newly married couples. We knew things wouldn’t be perfect. We knew things would be hard.

We just didn’t know how hard.

The first inkling came when Jacob was in the hospital. That was the first time that someone said something to us about

“The Odds”

and they weren’t in our favor.

We were told that a high percentage of couples with children with severe health issues split. We made a decision then and there that it wouldn’t happen to us. We fought our way through, and came out loving each other even more.

And then, not quite 2 years ago the unthinkable happened. Our oldest daughter passed away. And people talked with us again about

“The Odds”

and they were even less in our favor than the last time we were hit with the talk.

And you know, we decided once again, that we wouldn’t let it beat us.


So it wasn’t too much of a surprise when I heard a certain song that just spoke volumes to me, and I played it for my husband and we decided unanimously that it was our new “song”.

It’s the kind of song that we would have  loved to have choosen as our song when we first meet and are falling in love, but for me, we wouldn’t have had the mileage yet to really make it work (if it had existed then). But now, with nearly sixteen years under our belts, enormous challenges faced, overcome, and fighting through, we’re fighting the odds and beating them, and this song is perfect.

It’s “I won’t Give Up” by Jason Mraz

And that sums everything up. No matter what happens. No matter how hard it gets, I won’t give up. I won’t give up on my husband, my family, or my God. I know that He knows we’re worth it and is fighting for us. We’ll make it.

I love my husband with every thing I’ve got. He’s amazing.

So, I made this little video for him.

Happy Valentines day!

We’ll beat the odds, every time.

No Matter What!!


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7 responses to “Beating the Odds

  1. Paul

    Beautifully done Julia. You are the most wonderful wife, friend, companion that anyone could ever ask for. The song fits us so perfectly. Happy Valentine’s Day my Love.

  2. Etta Feinauer

    This is beautiful Julia. Thank you for sharing with us.

  3. What a beautiful video! It brought tears to my eyes! I’ve never heard that song before. I downloaded it. It’s so perfect! 😀

  4. I love it Julia! We have long loved that song and Jason Mraz… I was honestly struggling with my YW lesson for today (how to deal with the loss of a loved one), the girls picked it… if you don’t mind, I may share your story with them today…

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